Posted in C-Haze, Children, Dating, News, Race, Relationships, Single Mom

The Black Epidemic

I saw an article today that made my blood run cold.

In certain areas of the U.S., black HIV/AIDS infection rates rival that of rates in some African nations.


I had to let that sink in for a few minutes.

In this country, even though blacks only represent one in eight people, 80% of new HIV cases are coming out of the black community. In fact, in Washington, 5%- or one in twenty- black people are currently infected with the virus.

Right now African Americans account for over 50% of all U.S. HIV infections.

This is absolutely horrifying.

AIDS is now the number one killer of blacks. Number one. Not heart disease or cancer. Not car accidents.


If black Americans made up their very own nation, they would have more people infected with HIV than both Ethiopia and the Ivory Coast- combined.

Why are these numbers so high within our own community, as compared to others?

Some research shows that people of African descent have inherited a gene variant that makes us up to 40% more likely to become infected if exposed.

The key words here are if exposed.

If we do not allow ourselves to be exposed than we have no risk of getting this disease.

Gene variant or not, we are not behaving ourselves. We are not acting responsibly, and too often when our behavior leads to dire consequences, we are not accepting responsibility.

We become sneaky, we are in denial.

After attempting to absorb all the numbers, all I can think about is my daughters.

What does all this mean for my little girls and their future?

My two beautiful black-women-in-training are in terrible danger.

I can preach- shout from the rooftops- all day long about the importance of abstinence, or at the very least, condoms, but at the end of the day, when they’re out on their own, charged with making their own decisions, will it do any good?

Will they listen?

Is anyone listening? It certainly doesn’t sound like it.

I guess at this point all I can do is beg each of you to talk to your children- even if the conversation is an uncomfortable one.

Lead by example… we all need to be safe and responsible. We need to take proactive measures to prevent the further spread of this disease… and for those people for which proactive measures are too late, please- get tested, seek treatment… and be honest with everyone- potential partners, current partners, everyone.

I realize that there’s a terrible stigma that comes with being HIV positive, but millions of people’s lives- children’s lives, as well as our own- depend on knowing the frank, honest truth.

Please. Do what’s right, even as it may be a difficult task.

For my children’s sake and yours.

Posted in C-Haze, News, Politics, Race, Religion

“Whitey” Never Happened, Neither Did Most of the Other Nonsense…

Can we please just put an end to this crap?

Michelle Obama never used the word “whitey” while speaking from the pulpit at Trinity United Church of Christ.

As a matter of fact, she has never even spoken from the pulpit at Trinity at all.


Simply because Trinity UCC is predominantly black (and proud of it) does not make it, nor any of its members- the Obamas included- evil.

How many of you attend all white churches? Bet you don’t think there’s anything wrong with that… so why the hell should Obama or anyone else apologize for worshipping at a mostly black one?

Who cares that it was once-upon-a-time led by Rev. Wright?

What about Rev. Hagee? Or Pat Robertson? Those two guys- legitimately- have a helluva lot more to apologize for than Wright does, with all their hate-mongering and scare tactics.

As a matter of fact, so do all those nasty Catholic Priests who’ve been preying on little boys.

Religion is controversial. Period. No matter what your damn denomination is.


I’m pissed, dammit… but moving on… cuz that ain’t the only thing I need to cover…

Next, Barack Obama is NOT hiding his birth certificate, and in fact, you can even see it here.

He’s not Muslim, he wasn’t raised Muslim, and he did NOT attend a Muslim school- ever. He lived in a country that has a large Muslim population for a while… but because his parents weren’t wealthy enough to send him to the neighboring private Catholic school, he instead attended the non-religious public school… much like what exists in this country.

He has always been, and still remains, a devout Christian.

All these stupid rumors are debunked on Obama’s new website, and thank God for whoever’s idea it was to set this thing up.

I don’t expect everyone to love Obama, nor do I expect everyone to agree with his political views- hell, I don’t even expect everyone to like the guy. That’s what makes this a great country to live in. We don’t have to agree with each other all the time.

But jeez… cut the guy some slack. Just because Farakhan endorsed him doesn’t mean he’s Muslim… or that he has plans to take over the world by rockin’ Black Power.

Just as McCain doesn’t necessarily agree with Hagee’s comments about the Holocaust- in spite of the fact that he publicly sought Hagee’s endorsement- which by the way is something that Obama never did- not with Rev. Wright or Farakhan- Obama doesn’t necessarily agree with their words either.

I have the freedom to “Barack the vote”, and others have the freedom to vote for that old fart McCain- or anyone else they choose.

It’s cool. Really.

What infuriates me beyond words are the lies.

If someone dislikes Obama- that’s ok- dislike him… but dislike him for legitimate reasons, and stop the vicious lies.

Stop being sheep, and quit following the herd cuz it’s the most convenient thing to do.

Just because someone prints something, writes it out in black and white, doesn’t make it true.

Shame on those of you who believe this nonsense being said about Obama… and shame on you same people for forwarding it to your friends and adding fuel to the fire.

Think for yourselves. Educate yourselves. Know what’s important to you- and then pick the candidate that will best represent you.

Putting a bunch of crap that isn’t even true out there is ignorant, and quite frankly makes those of you who take it all at face value look stupid.